You Don't Need More Coaching. You Need Clarity.

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You Don't Need More Coaching. You Need Clarity.

What should you do when more preparation stops being the answer?

Oct 21, 2025

Each week, I share no-fluff pageant coaching that helps you win. Both on stage and off. After coaching titleholders in Miss Universe, Miss USA, Miss America, and 350+ pageant interviews, this isn’t theory. It’s what works.

If you ever want to guarantee chaos, try filming a serious video with a cat in the room.

Mine decided the exact moment I hit record was the perfect time to make his grand entrance. Fur everywhere. Meowing like he’d just discovered he had vocal cords.

Anyway.

This week I offered free mock interviews to Miss USA and Miss Teen USA contestants. It was just something I wanted to do for the girls heading to Reno. I figured maybe one person would book. Ten did.

And that’s when things got interesting.

I thought I’d be running interview drills. Asking tough questions. Testing composure. But that’s not what happened.

One contestant, a front-runner I’ve known for years, wanted me to throw every hard question I could think of at her. She handled them all with ease. After a few minutes I stopped and said, “You don’t need this. You’re ready.” She paused, exhaled, and said quietly, “Yeah... I guess I am.”

That’s what she actually needed to hear. Not another question. Permission to stop overworking and start believing it was enough.

Another contestant told me she doesn’t hit her stride until question four or five. Which, in a Miss USA interview, is about two minutes too late. So I suggested she warm up before she even walks into the room. Two minutes of out-loud practice, maybe using ChatGPT’s voice mode, just to get into rhythm. Same skill, better timing.

Then there was the eighteen-year-old who said she felt like an imposter. She’s brilliant, confident, and prepared, but she couldn’t remember the last time she felt proud of herself. We reframed that. Imposter syndrome isn’t a flaw, it’s fuel. Her homework was to look in the mirror and say, “I’m proud of you.” It made her squirm, which meant she needed it.

And finally, one of my Miss USA contestants had sent a perfect but painfully stiff video. On our call, though, she was hilarious, magnetic, totally herself. I told her, “Walk into the room as your TikTok self, not your LinkedIn self.”

By the end of those ten sessions, I realized something. None of these were really mock interviews.

They were something else entirely.

Each one ended the same way: with someone seeing themselves clearly for the first time.

Clarity that they’d already done enough.
Clarity that perfectionism can be useful when it’s understood.
Clarity that their real self is more powerful than any polished version.

That’s when it hit me. This is what I actually do.

Sure, I can run mock interviews or review social media strategy. But the real transformation happens when you finally understand yourself. When you stop trying to become someone new and start seeing who you already are.

If you’d like to have a Clarity Conversation of your own, I’m giving away one free session in the next 24 hours.

It’s a half-hour chat to help you get clear on what’s keeping you stuck, what feedback really means, or whether you’re heading in the right direction.

The only catch is that it’ll be recorded, since I’ll be sharing the session in Thursday’s video.

If that sounds like you, and you have a specific area you want clarity on (pageant, business, social media, whatever it is), reply to this email or message me on Instagram.

You don’t need more coaching.

You need clarity.